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Defining Yourself

Who Am I?

Learning to cultivate your own fashion sense and a style that will project the right image is a process that begins with an understanding of:

  • Who you are;
  • Who you want to become;
  • Who people think you are; and
  • Who you want them to think you are.

From experience, I know that, unless you can answer the “Who am I?” question first, no possession, place, person, outfit, meal, or condition will ever satisfy you for long. You will always be looking for the next thing or indulgence that promises greater fulfilment.  You will be in constant search for that one thing or person that you hope will complete your sense of self or that will fill that emptiness you feel inside. So let’s start the process.

Defining Yourself

Here’s a survey question.  Simply answer the question “Who Am I?”  — without making reference to your:

  • Job
  • School
  • Possessions
  • Gender
  • Race/Ethnicity
  • Family Name
  • Health situation
  • Role in life

If you’re having trouble coming up with an answer, notice that the question asks, “who” you are, and all of these things refer to what you do, what you have, what groups you belong to, or what relationships you’re in (i.e., spouse, parent, child, sibling, friend, etc.).  While these things are important, none of them refer to who you are.

Keep trying.  Once you are able to define yourself without making reference to these “what” descriptions, you can start to evaluate whether you are satisfied with who you really are.  If you’re not satisfied,  then you — and only you — have the power to change yourself into who you want to become.

Send us your comments.  We’d love to hear from you.  Maybe your response will help someone else find out who they really are.

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